Dear Jenna,
You are a sad & pathetic woman, and your latest stunt only proves it more. I wasn't going to say anything, but stealing my mom's pic?!?! That pisses me off. Everything my mom posts about me on the internet is okay'd by me first. It's called common courtesy, look it up. You not only did not have my permission to post that pic, but you lied in your post! You weren't there and neither was Mike, so you don't know the whole story. For whatever reason, you lie to put down my mom, but you know what you said isn't true. My mom didn't let me walk across a parking lot by myself; she held my hand while we both walked across a painted crossing! You may have come to the hospital, but my mom kicked you out of my room! Mike (that's what I call him, now; he doesn't deserve the title of dad) was only there for a few hours, too. You obviously have no idea how much money we got in that settlement, but it should have been so much more. You're just mad because you & Mike didn't get any of it! And, calling her my "bio mom"?!?! What's wrong with you? SHE IS MY MOM, my ONLY mom! You are no longer my stepmonster (you don't even deserve the title of stepmom), so stop calling yourself that. You aren't my "Na" or anything else to me. Didn't you get it when I blocked you on Facebook? I could have unblocked you & sent you a PM, I could have emailed you, I could have texted your phone, but I don't want you having any way to contact me, so I borrowed my mom's blog. We all know you read it. You're still jealous of her after all these years because she's prettier, nicer, smarter, and a better mom than you'll ever be. I just want you to take that post down, go away, leave us alone, stop harassing us, and stop posting stuff about us. Get a life & stop using my name & old pics of me to piss off my mom.
Signed,
MJK
Ramblings of life's goings-on as my husband and I raise our one remaining child, move ahead in our careers, deal with life's tragedies & happy times, and continue to love & grow together... No imaginary deity needed.
Friday, March 27, 2015
Monday, March 23, 2015
Movin' On Up...
Wow... lots of stuff going on around here!
Gamerboy recently got a new job at Intel, working in the warehouse. His lease was supposed to be up at the end of this month, anyway, and he'd been hemming & hawing as to if he was going to find a new roommate (stay in his two bedroom apt) or move into a 1bd. When he found this job, he'd decided to find a westside place to live & thought that a room-for-rent situation would be a better fit so started his search on Craigslist, Intel's classifieds, & a couple other sites. He narrowed it down within a week to three, and early last week, moved into a nice home a little further west. His deal is nice, though; rent is very reasonable & includes all utilities, food is another $50, but he doesn't have to go shopping (he does have to make a meal for the house once in a while, though) and can special request anything he wants. The house is owned by a very nice lady in her 40's and two of her three sons (very young adults) still live at home, plus there is a Japanese exchange student. He said she's "a bit on the *mom* side, but nice". Apparently, when he's not around for meals, she leaves a container or covered plate in the fridge or on the counter with a note for him, so he knows she left it for him. I told him, "At least she's a nice mom, not a crazy one..."
Squeeks signed her first apartment lease a few weeks ago; she moves out of her mother's home at the end of this month (after finals). She will be taking her cat, but is selling most of her furniture so she can buy better stuff (bigger bed, smaller desk, etc). We sold her bed & bedding that was here (gave her the money), and have set aside the items she still wants (some clothes, towel set, mostly decorative items). Once she's moved in, we'll go visit, bring her her stuff, see her place, & meet her roommate. This place is also close to both her work and her school campus... and just a little closer to us than her mother's house is. My biggest concern for her is financial -- (A) Is she or is she not getting all of her child support? Unfortunately, all we can legally do is make sure it's paid; it's up to her, and her alone, to have it distributed directly to herself. Last time it was mentioned, she told us she had access (ATM card) to a joint account her mom set up for the CS to go to, so she can take out her portion. This, as you would imagine, worries us for a multitude of reasons; not the least of which is the fact that this is the same situation Maleficient had with GB, then blocked his access & took all the money for herself (just part of the reason he hasn't spoken to his mother in more than three years)... and (B) She has no clue what a budget is nor how to balance her bank accounts (she checks her balance at least three times per week). I've offered to go over this stuff with her, but she has shown no interest as of yet.
Princess is doing well, too. After the Ethics Club took 3rd place at State, she & KP joined the GSA (Gay & Straight Alliance). They have regular meetings and are working on plans for a couple different events, plus a tee-shirt sale. She is also doing very well at school; last semester, she had two B's and six A's. So far this semester, she's got one B and seven A's. We promised her "something big" if, at the end of any semester over the course of high school, she gets all A's. She's working very hard toward that. She also has planned her summer trip with Mimi (she gets to bring a friend this time) as well as GrandCamp and Driver's Ed classes. We continue working on her hours at home, as well, so by her 16th birthday, she'll be ready.
Ace & I have been working on little projects here & there, mostly just waiting out the weather so we can get started on the yard redo. One little thing I was able to finish recently was big painted/decorated letters for Princess' wall in her room. We bought two letters (one for her first name & one for her new last name) for her from Michaels for her birthday, but the weather never was warm enough for me to paint until a couple weeks ago. When it finally warmed up, I painted them white, let that dry, taped them for stripes & painted two coats of teal (to match her room), let that dry, sprayed a "satin" seal on them, let that dry, and put blingy numbers on them. The first initial has her birth date and the last initial has her adoption date on them. She loves them, and they hang above her bed, near her head.
We also cleared out & reorganized some things in the spare room, but can't do much until Squeeks' stuff is out of there. Bare minimum, we're looking for a roughly 6' long convertible couch (like a futon, but higher quality & preferably with arm rests), some new bins for the closet organizer (as Squeeks is taking her old ones), and possibly a different desk (so Ace can have the two-monitor system that he prefers). Our 42" t.v., extra DVD/VCR player, & the other cable box/DVR is going to go in there, so although the t.v. will be mounted, we'll need a shelf for the two other things.
Ace is also officially on the hunt for a new position within INTEL, again. At his last review, his boss said he was doing a great job, doing everything they asked of him, blah blah blah... and he got another raise. But, he's just not happy there. He feels underappreciated, and his job skills are underutilized, so perhaps another position in a different department will be a better fit. And, now that two of our three kids are fully out of the house, he can take on some other shift a lot more easily than before. So, we'll see how this pans out.
I have also quenched my tattoo itch... for a little while, anyway. After I had the cover-up done on my left shoulder, I decided I wanted a couple more things taken care of... So, last week, I had a black dog paw print put onto my right foot, and a cool dragonfly put on my right shoulder blade (dragonflies symbolize change/transformation; I'd say that definitely applies). The eventual goal is to add a ladybug (for my older Little niece) and something for my youngest Little (bee? hummingbird? not sure yet), then shade the rest of my upper back in blues. I also want to have part of my family's crest tattoo'd, but I'm not sure where yet or which parts.
In EX & WILDEBEEST news:
I knew the quiet/calm wouldn't last...
(A) The house he's living in is now sold/pending. Curious if the new buyers will allow him to stay or not, and where he'll go if they don't. If he does move, I truly hope he makes sure my attorney has his contact info. Princess may want nothing to do with him, Wildebeest, or most of their families right now, but someday she may change her mind... and if he truly cared/cares about her, he will make sure he is easily found.
(B) Seems she's still up to her old tricks... Apparently, she swiped a pic from my page (of Princess in the hospital after her accident as a toddler) and posted her own version of what happened. Lies, mostly... I couldn't care less what lies she wants to spread about me (as long as she leaves my & my family's names out of it), but stealing my photos (especially those of MY daughter) will get you reported & lambasted with messages. Btw, she's not "M... R... G..." anymore, she's not your stepdaughter anymore, and SHE DESPISES YOU (why do you think she blocked you from seeing her FB and contacting her at all?)! Seriously, woman, grow up, shut up, get on with your life, and leave us alone.
Gamerboy recently got a new job at Intel, working in the warehouse. His lease was supposed to be up at the end of this month, anyway, and he'd been hemming & hawing as to if he was going to find a new roommate (stay in his two bedroom apt) or move into a 1bd. When he found this job, he'd decided to find a westside place to live & thought that a room-for-rent situation would be a better fit so started his search on Craigslist, Intel's classifieds, & a couple other sites. He narrowed it down within a week to three, and early last week, moved into a nice home a little further west. His deal is nice, though; rent is very reasonable & includes all utilities, food is another $50, but he doesn't have to go shopping (he does have to make a meal for the house once in a while, though) and can special request anything he wants. The house is owned by a very nice lady in her 40's and two of her three sons (very young adults) still live at home, plus there is a Japanese exchange student. He said she's "a bit on the *mom* side, but nice". Apparently, when he's not around for meals, she leaves a container or covered plate in the fridge or on the counter with a note for him, so he knows she left it for him. I told him, "At least she's a nice mom, not a crazy one..."
Squeeks signed her first apartment lease a few weeks ago; she moves out of her mother's home at the end of this month (after finals). She will be taking her cat, but is selling most of her furniture so she can buy better stuff (bigger bed, smaller desk, etc). We sold her bed & bedding that was here (gave her the money), and have set aside the items she still wants (some clothes, towel set, mostly decorative items). Once she's moved in, we'll go visit, bring her her stuff, see her place, & meet her roommate. This place is also close to both her work and her school campus... and just a little closer to us than her mother's house is. My biggest concern for her is financial -- (A) Is she or is she not getting all of her child support? Unfortunately, all we can legally do is make sure it's paid; it's up to her, and her alone, to have it distributed directly to herself. Last time it was mentioned, she told us she had access (ATM card) to a joint account her mom set up for the CS to go to, so she can take out her portion. This, as you would imagine, worries us for a multitude of reasons; not the least of which is the fact that this is the same situation Maleficient had with GB, then blocked his access & took all the money for herself (just part of the reason he hasn't spoken to his mother in more than three years)... and (B) She has no clue what a budget is nor how to balance her bank accounts (she checks her balance at least three times per week). I've offered to go over this stuff with her, but she has shown no interest as of yet.
Princess is doing well, too. After the Ethics Club took 3rd place at State, she & KP joined the GSA (Gay & Straight Alliance). They have regular meetings and are working on plans for a couple different events, plus a tee-shirt sale. She is also doing very well at school; last semester, she had two B's and six A's. So far this semester, she's got one B and seven A's. We promised her "something big" if, at the end of any semester over the course of high school, she gets all A's. She's working very hard toward that. She also has planned her summer trip with Mimi (she gets to bring a friend this time) as well as GrandCamp and Driver's Ed classes. We continue working on her hours at home, as well, so by her 16th birthday, she'll be ready.
Ace & I have been working on little projects here & there, mostly just waiting out the weather so we can get started on the yard redo. One little thing I was able to finish recently was big painted/decorated letters for Princess' wall in her room. We bought two letters (one for her first name & one for her new last name) for her from Michaels for her birthday, but the weather never was warm enough for me to paint until a couple weeks ago. When it finally warmed up, I painted them white, let that dry, taped them for stripes & painted two coats of teal (to match her room), let that dry, sprayed a "satin" seal on them, let that dry, and put blingy numbers on them. The first initial has her birth date and the last initial has her adoption date on them. She loves them, and they hang above her bed, near her head.
We also cleared out & reorganized some things in the spare room, but can't do much until Squeeks' stuff is out of there. Bare minimum, we're looking for a roughly 6' long convertible couch (like a futon, but higher quality & preferably with arm rests), some new bins for the closet organizer (as Squeeks is taking her old ones), and possibly a different desk (so Ace can have the two-monitor system that he prefers). Our 42" t.v., extra DVD/VCR player, & the other cable box/DVR is going to go in there, so although the t.v. will be mounted, we'll need a shelf for the two other things.
Ace is also officially on the hunt for a new position within INTEL, again. At his last review, his boss said he was doing a great job, doing everything they asked of him, blah blah blah... and he got another raise. But, he's just not happy there. He feels underappreciated, and his job skills are underutilized, so perhaps another position in a different department will be a better fit. And, now that two of our three kids are fully out of the house, he can take on some other shift a lot more easily than before. So, we'll see how this pans out.
I have also quenched my tattoo itch... for a little while, anyway. After I had the cover-up done on my left shoulder, I decided I wanted a couple more things taken care of... So, last week, I had a black dog paw print put onto my right foot, and a cool dragonfly put on my right shoulder blade (dragonflies symbolize change/transformation; I'd say that definitely applies). The eventual goal is to add a ladybug (for my older Little niece) and something for my youngest Little (bee? hummingbird? not sure yet), then shade the rest of my upper back in blues. I also want to have part of my family's crest tattoo'd, but I'm not sure where yet or which parts.
In EX & WILDEBEEST news:
I knew the quiet/calm wouldn't last...
(A) The house he's living in is now sold/pending. Curious if the new buyers will allow him to stay or not, and where he'll go if they don't. If he does move, I truly hope he makes sure my attorney has his contact info. Princess may want nothing to do with him, Wildebeest, or most of their families right now, but someday she may change her mind... and if he truly cared/cares about her, he will make sure he is easily found.
(B) Seems she's still up to her old tricks... Apparently, she swiped a pic from my page (of Princess in the hospital after her accident as a toddler) and posted her own version of what happened. Lies, mostly... I couldn't care less what lies she wants to spread about me (as long as she leaves my & my family's names out of it), but stealing my photos (especially those of MY daughter) will get you reported & lambasted with messages. Btw, she's not "M... R... G..." anymore, she's not your stepdaughter anymore, and SHE DESPISES YOU (why do you think she blocked you from seeing her FB and contacting her at all?)! Seriously, woman, grow up, shut up, get on with your life, and leave us alone.
Tuesday, March 10, 2015
My Own Top Ten...
Top Ten FaceBook annoyances...
10. Comments on a status/post that have nothing to do with original post. For instance -- I post this status: "Went to get gas today, and got 53c off my gas... only paid $1.98!" and someone comments: "Hey, did you get my text? I'm going to need to reschedule lunch tomorrow..." Um, what?!?! STOP! Seriously, you can either PM me (for more private messages) or post that directly on my page (for more general, or no-need-for-privacy messages).
9. Comments on a photo album that are specific to one or two photos (usually when this happens, it's because pics were just added to an album). STOP! Seriously, you can just do one more thing - click on the actual pic you want to comment on - and post it there.
8. Vaguebooking. If you want to share something, do so. If you don't, don't. But, please stop leaving crytic statuses, making everyone ask "What's wrong?" or "What's up?!?"
7. Too many political &/or religious posts. I get it you're pro/anti-Obama, birth control, ISIS, Gaza, Hilary, waterboarding, abortion, etc... but if statuses/posts about these two subjects are the ONLY thing you post, you're annoying people. FaceBook is meant to get personal, so please... share some personal stuff too! I don't even mind the cute kids/pets posts, or the food pics sometimes! Like a lot of things in life, I think what you post on FB should be done in moderation. I know what you're thinking... you're thinking, "Hey; I have the right to post whatever I want..." Yes, you do. And, we all have the right to delete &/or block you.
6. "Liking" your own posts.
5. Posts for a specific area that are posted for someone's whole Friends' list to see. For example: "Does anyone have a recommendation for a good daycare?" Um, yeah... but you live in Florida and I live in Oregon. So, a very simple remedy is to take an extra couple of minutes, and limit your audience (use the button at the bottom/right of your status box to limit who sees posts).
4. Pics posted without some sort of description or reason you posted it. For instance: Friend "S" posts a pic of the inside of a bag of chips. Um... what? Why? What does that even mean? Why did you post this? Side note - just because you tag someone doesn't mean they are the ONLY one who sees that post. If you only want THEM to see it, post it on THEIR page.
3. Pages set as Profiles. If it's for you, personally, make a Profile. If it's for your business, make a Page. It also annoys me when Pages, set as Profiles, comment personally on other Profiles. FaceBook actually discourages doing this, and if they find out, they will delete the page... If you're logged on as your business, you should only be posting under your professional persona.
2. Hoax posts/reposts. It literally takes 10s to do a little research...
1. Spelling & grammar issues, and text-speak (like "ur" and "2" instead of "your" and "to"). In this day & age, you should have the ability to run a spell-check (they even make grammar-check) and proof-read your posts before hitting that "POST" button! I don't care if you're dyslexic or just lazy... there are no excuses! And, before you get all bent out of shape, I'm not talking about uncommon things... I'm talking about normal, day-to-day, stuff like to/too/two, there/their/they're, etc.
This is, by no means, an all-inclusive list... and I'm sure my annoyances are not yours, so feel free to comment what yours are. I'd love to read those!
10. Comments on a status/post that have nothing to do with original post. For instance -- I post this status: "Went to get gas today, and got 53c off my gas... only paid $1.98!" and someone comments: "Hey, did you get my text? I'm going to need to reschedule lunch tomorrow..." Um, what?!?! STOP! Seriously, you can either PM me (for more private messages) or post that directly on my page (for more general, or no-need-for-privacy messages).
9. Comments on a photo album that are specific to one or two photos (usually when this happens, it's because pics were just added to an album). STOP! Seriously, you can just do one more thing - click on the actual pic you want to comment on - and post it there.
8. Vaguebooking. If you want to share something, do so. If you don't, don't. But, please stop leaving crytic statuses, making everyone ask "What's wrong?" or "What's up?!?"
7. Too many political &/or religious posts. I get it you're pro/anti-Obama, birth control, ISIS, Gaza, Hilary, waterboarding, abortion, etc... but if statuses/posts about these two subjects are the ONLY thing you post, you're annoying people. FaceBook is meant to get personal, so please... share some personal stuff too! I don't even mind the cute kids/pets posts, or the food pics sometimes! Like a lot of things in life, I think what you post on FB should be done in moderation. I know what you're thinking... you're thinking, "Hey; I have the right to post whatever I want..." Yes, you do. And, we all have the right to delete &/or block you.
6. "Liking" your own posts.
5. Posts for a specific area that are posted for someone's whole Friends' list to see. For example: "Does anyone have a recommendation for a good daycare?" Um, yeah... but you live in Florida and I live in Oregon. So, a very simple remedy is to take an extra couple of minutes, and limit your audience (use the button at the bottom/right of your status box to limit who sees posts).
4. Pics posted without some sort of description or reason you posted it. For instance: Friend "S" posts a pic of the inside of a bag of chips. Um... what? Why? What does that even mean? Why did you post this? Side note - just because you tag someone doesn't mean they are the ONLY one who sees that post. If you only want THEM to see it, post it on THEIR page.
3. Pages set as Profiles. If it's for you, personally, make a Profile. If it's for your business, make a Page. It also annoys me when Pages, set as Profiles, comment personally on other Profiles. FaceBook actually discourages doing this, and if they find out, they will delete the page... If you're logged on as your business, you should only be posting under your professional persona.
2. Hoax posts/reposts. It literally takes 10s to do a little research...
1. Spelling & grammar issues, and text-speak (like "ur" and "2" instead of "your" and "to"). In this day & age, you should have the ability to run a spell-check (they even make grammar-check) and proof-read your posts before hitting that "POST" button! I don't care if you're dyslexic or just lazy... there are no excuses! And, before you get all bent out of shape, I'm not talking about uncommon things... I'm talking about normal, day-to-day, stuff like to/too/two, there/their/they're, etc.
This is, by no means, an all-inclusive list... and I'm sure my annoyances are not yours, so feel free to comment what yours are. I'd love to read those!
Sunday, February 8, 2015
What Pro-Choice Truly Means
"PRO" -- For, in favor of. "CHOICE" -- The act of choosing, the right/power/opportunity to choose. In other words, the term Pro-Choice refers to the idea that every individual has the right to make decisions for his/her own body. Pro-choice (using the term here specifically to speak of embryos, fetuses, & babies, and a woman's right to choose abortion, adoption, or to keep) men & women support every pregnant woman's right to make decisions for herself without infringment from others. Pro-choice does NOT mean "pro abortion", it is simply the belief that *I* get to make decisions for myself, you get to make decisions for yourself, and every other pregnant woman gets to make decisions for themselves... whether *you* agree with it or not.
My husband & I have had this conversation a lot lately... and we've included our daughter in it, too. We all have opinions, and we all feel that we know how we'd decide if we're ever faced with that type of decision. But, what Ace said regarding his opinion took me a little by surprise. His original opinion matched many many people out there who say they're pro-choice. Basically, he said, "It's your decision until..." No. Nope. That is not pro-choice. That is infringing your opinions on someone else's choice. You don't get to do that. You see, if it doesn't affect you & yours, you don't get a say. That's the difference between the vaccination debate and the abortion debate. If you don't vaccinate your child, it affects EVERYONE your child comes into contact with, reducing the abilities of the "herd protection". If you have an abortion, it only directly affects you & your family. However, it's still the pregnant woman's decision; no matter at what stage, no matter the reason.
Let's start with a few scenarios:
1. Your 15yo son gets his 14yo girlfriend pregnant, she's 8 weeks.
2. You are a married woman in her 30's with four kids, just got pregnant with your fifth (unplanned). You are now 10 weeks.
3. You are a married woman, age 40, one kid. You discover at 22 weeks the second child you so badly wanted has Osteogenesis Imperfecta.
4. You are a non-married 23yo woman who got raped by that guy at the bar you were talking to, miss your period, and discover you're 7 weeks pregnant.
5. You are a 27yo man whose longtime girlfriend is now 12 weeks pregnant, despite her being on the pill & you using a condom properly. She wants to abort; you do not.
There are, of course, many many many other scenarios, but just dealing with these five, who gets to make the decision as to if the pregnant woman has an abortion? Let me guess; most of you said, "Well, that depends..." Nope. No, it doesn't depend. Rapists get no say, no opinion, no rights, no anything imo. However, if you are in any sort of relationship with the other DNA-contributor (meaning, the male & female who co-created), you have every right to have an opinion & to make that opinion known. As the parent of a minor in this situation (no matter if it's your daughter or your son in this scenario), you also get an opinion. What you do not have, ever, no matter what your relationship status, is the right to make that decision for other people. No matter if that pregnant person is your co-worker, your sister, your spouse, your girlfriend, or your daughter... the FINAL decision is theirs, alone, to make.
Maybe some of you are confused... There is a huge difference between "Opinion" & "Decision". Let's say (for another example) that I get pregnant. I am 40yo, happily married, and have a 15yo still at home. My husband had a vasectomy after his daughter (his second child by birth) was born, and I am on the pill (for medical reasons not related to preventing pregnancy -- another reason we need to make sure all forms of birth control are readily available for everyone). There is always a chance that I could still get pregnant, so let's imagine that happens, and I find out at 5 weeks (that's how far along I was when I found out I was pregnant with Princess). Who gets an opinion as to what I do about it? My husband gets to tell me how he feels about it, our daughter gets to tell me what she thinks, but in the end, the decision is mine & mine alone. Of course, whatever I decide, I also have to live with that decision for the rest of my life... That's why it's MY decision.
How long do I have to make a decision? Again, my husband & daughter get to voice their opinions, but that decision is also mine. If I want to wait to 6 weeks, or 10 weeks, or 22 weeks... That's is MY DECISION!! Ace doesn't want any more kids. To be honest, neither to I. I am too old, imo, to start over. I would have an abortion, probably as soon as I could make an appointment to do so. Most of you would probably never know, but you can bet your ass I would not "feel guilty" (as many Forced Birthers would have you believe). Oh, for the record, the majority of "late term" abortions (in fact, every one that I've ever heard of) are WANTED babies who have severe, even terminal, conditions that would either severely diminish their quality of life, place undue financial/emotion burdens on the families (not to mention government assistance programs most of the Forced Birthers are trying to eliminate), or will kill them as soon as they're born or soon after. So, please stop trying to eliminate these, as well. Just like marriage equality, you can't outlaw something just because you don't agree with it.
My husband & I have had this conversation a lot lately... and we've included our daughter in it, too. We all have opinions, and we all feel that we know how we'd decide if we're ever faced with that type of decision. But, what Ace said regarding his opinion took me a little by surprise. His original opinion matched many many people out there who say they're pro-choice. Basically, he said, "It's your decision until..." No. Nope. That is not pro-choice. That is infringing your opinions on someone else's choice. You don't get to do that. You see, if it doesn't affect you & yours, you don't get a say. That's the difference between the vaccination debate and the abortion debate. If you don't vaccinate your child, it affects EVERYONE your child comes into contact with, reducing the abilities of the "herd protection". If you have an abortion, it only directly affects you & your family. However, it's still the pregnant woman's decision; no matter at what stage, no matter the reason.
Let's start with a few scenarios:
1. Your 15yo son gets his 14yo girlfriend pregnant, she's 8 weeks.
2. You are a married woman in her 30's with four kids, just got pregnant with your fifth (unplanned). You are now 10 weeks.
3. You are a married woman, age 40, one kid. You discover at 22 weeks the second child you so badly wanted has Osteogenesis Imperfecta.
4. You are a non-married 23yo woman who got raped by that guy at the bar you were talking to, miss your period, and discover you're 7 weeks pregnant.
5. You are a 27yo man whose longtime girlfriend is now 12 weeks pregnant, despite her being on the pill & you using a condom properly. She wants to abort; you do not.
There are, of course, many many many other scenarios, but just dealing with these five, who gets to make the decision as to if the pregnant woman has an abortion? Let me guess; most of you said, "Well, that depends..." Nope. No, it doesn't depend. Rapists get no say, no opinion, no rights, no anything imo. However, if you are in any sort of relationship with the other DNA-contributor (meaning, the male & female who co-created), you have every right to have an opinion & to make that opinion known. As the parent of a minor in this situation (no matter if it's your daughter or your son in this scenario), you also get an opinion. What you do not have, ever, no matter what your relationship status, is the right to make that decision for other people. No matter if that pregnant person is your co-worker, your sister, your spouse, your girlfriend, or your daughter... the FINAL decision is theirs, alone, to make.
Maybe some of you are confused... There is a huge difference between "Opinion" & "Decision". Let's say (for another example) that I get pregnant. I am 40yo, happily married, and have a 15yo still at home. My husband had a vasectomy after his daughter (his second child by birth) was born, and I am on the pill (for medical reasons not related to preventing pregnancy -- another reason we need to make sure all forms of birth control are readily available for everyone). There is always a chance that I could still get pregnant, so let's imagine that happens, and I find out at 5 weeks (that's how far along I was when I found out I was pregnant with Princess). Who gets an opinion as to what I do about it? My husband gets to tell me how he feels about it, our daughter gets to tell me what she thinks, but in the end, the decision is mine & mine alone. Of course, whatever I decide, I also have to live with that decision for the rest of my life... That's why it's MY decision.
How long do I have to make a decision? Again, my husband & daughter get to voice their opinions, but that decision is also mine. If I want to wait to 6 weeks, or 10 weeks, or 22 weeks... That's is MY DECISION!! Ace doesn't want any more kids. To be honest, neither to I. I am too old, imo, to start over. I would have an abortion, probably as soon as I could make an appointment to do so. Most of you would probably never know, but you can bet your ass I would not "feel guilty" (as many Forced Birthers would have you believe). Oh, for the record, the majority of "late term" abortions (in fact, every one that I've ever heard of) are WANTED babies who have severe, even terminal, conditions that would either severely diminish their quality of life, place undue financial/emotion burdens on the families (not to mention government assistance programs most of the Forced Birthers are trying to eliminate), or will kill them as soon as they're born or soon after. So, please stop trying to eliminate these, as well. Just like marriage equality, you can't outlaw something just because you don't agree with it.
Friday, February 6, 2015
This... This, Right Here
The headline reads "Godless Parents Are Doing A Better Job"... so, of course I had to read it.
While I am not a fan of the name calling (calling you a "bible thumper" is the same thing as you calling me a "heathen", btw), the man has many good points. All in all, the article is spot-on. I don't know why some Christians think they're better than we are... All you have to do is talk to our kids, and you'll see they're loving, smart, empathetic, and probably a lot less judgmental than a large chunk of the Christian sect. What's also funny/interesting to me is this (imo) ill-percieved notion of persecution. We atheists aren't persecuting you, we are simply asking for the same respect from you that you've demanded from EVERYONE. We don't appreciate being told we're "going to hell", or we're wrong (because you know your god is the only one?!?! no), or you're praying for us... If you honestly feel that way, that's fine (we don't really care); just keep it to yourself and stop trying to change us.
While I am not a fan of the name calling (calling you a "bible thumper" is the same thing as you calling me a "heathen", btw), the man has many good points. All in all, the article is spot-on. I don't know why some Christians think they're better than we are... All you have to do is talk to our kids, and you'll see they're loving, smart, empathetic, and probably a lot less judgmental than a large chunk of the Christian sect. What's also funny/interesting to me is this (imo) ill-percieved notion of persecution. We atheists aren't persecuting you, we are simply asking for the same respect from you that you've demanded from EVERYONE. We don't appreciate being told we're "going to hell", or we're wrong (because you know your god is the only one?!?! no), or you're praying for us... If you honestly feel that way, that's fine (we don't really care); just keep it to yourself and stop trying to change us.
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